Thursday, March 29, 2007

 
mama spring break

when i was in college, i never went anywhere for spring break except home to the eastern shore.
i've just returned from miami. I attended the winter music conference with my fellow mama friend T. she just happens to be a lovely songstress too. in addition we were joined midweek by my other mama friend R who just happens to be a dope designer who showed in Fashion WEEK. aha so you see I don't roll with no regualer mamas. we're fly women who just happen to have kids. I say that because I've been descriminated in the past because I had kids. yes it does happen people. there are single, sometimes married folks without kids who don't know how to be around kids, deal with kids, or don't even like them. and by me being involved in various artistic projects etc etc, I would have thought the art scene would be more liberal or cool with kids. but alas i have dealt with fellow artists who treated me QUITE DIFFERENTLY when they saw me with my kids. they don't realize having kids has shortend my level of tolerance. at first i felt a way and then I thought they're the one's missing out. i got the prizes. since i've had kids, i've written tons of songs and articles. after giving birth to my daughter i wrote a grant, received it, and then produced, directed, and starred in my own production. mamas are the shhhh. not only that i'm a shhh because i'm not just a mama. i need to thank my husband for holding it down on the homefront and making me go. i want to thank my friends who just happen to be mamas, T and R(the initials are to protect the innocent) for a funfilled, relaxing, dope spring break. we went to some fly parties, stayed in a cool hotel, sweated, got free donuts from the KRISPY KREME man, met some cool folks, slept in late(WHAT), snubbed door people, got our hustle on 4 real, and celebrated successes. shout outs to my other fly mama friend Tomi.

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Saturday, March 17, 2007

 
Great Expectations

I know that you can't shield your children from anything but when you lay the groundwork, i kind of expect a little more. My kids are not allowed to watch scary movies. And really the only tv they get is pbs or an occasional thing on the Disney Channel. Nickelodeon is for adults or teenagers. I know many mom's my age who believe in the same things. And we consider us pretty free thinking people who are quite aware of what we'd like to our children exposed to. So PHina decides tell a story to Dahvi about Zombies eating people. So I say what do you know about Zombies and where have you seen them. Her face immediatly changed. I said calmly and very slowly " Did you see a scary movie somewhere? Tell me the truth." She hesistated. Then she said yes, I'm sorry. I said " Phina you know we don't allow you and Dahvi to watch scary movies. You should of just said I'm not allowed to watch scary movies. And I said I'm surprised given that you're even scared to walk past the scary movie section in blockbuster! Now don't get me wrong. Fear is good when it's natural. And though movies aren't real, my daughter's great fear of them and dogs is real. So I don't know. This is the second time this incident has occurred. No I can't control everything. I sincerely don't. But PHina knows we expect certain things from her. To be truthful. Mind her business. Don't talk to strangers. Be Polite. etc. Can a movie hurt her? Well I know it affects her deeply to the point that I can't even take her into blockbuster. She's afraid to sleep in her room sometimes. etc and on and on. Mind you this occurs as a result of the incident. Any other time, Phina sleeps in the pitchdark. So because I know I can't stop everything, I instill those things in her and hope she comes out on top. She's allowed to fall but as she gets older, I hope she continues to at least be truthful and make the right choices. Hopefully she'll realize how much power she has at such an early age.

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Thursday, March 15, 2007

 
Today i pray for patience. It's so needed with children.
Anywho my daughter Phina is doing well in school. She's reading. She's getting her Akeelah and the Bee on for real. I'm so proud of her. And Dahvi is a charming genius. HE ALMOST convinced me that a diamond was a hexagon. And mind you, I didn't even remember what a hexagon was. HEX-six right. six sided. Don't hold it against me. Sorry I was never the math person. I think I actually still have a little anxiety. Yet I handle the finances. Go figure. My kids are showing great promise. and my husband. Well he has sewn on pocket protectors. OKAY!!!! My lovely hubby is making his way through Texarkana and other scary places to perform at South BY Southwest. I told him he better come back with a record deal or not at all. Well okay, some Gold will suffice. BLANG. Well he knows I'm estactic that he's doing this thang. mush.

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