Saturday, December 02, 2006

 
ball and chain

My husband and I have been married for six years now. And as corny as it sounds, it really feels like 10. I believe our marriage is cool mainly because we're best friends. We don't hold anything back and we don't feel like we have to prove or show our love to anyone else. Some of my single friends fear the m word. They think it means lock down and that you need to be with your spouse every minute. tis not true. what makes a marriage in my experience is having that time apart and having your own life. i mean what the hell are you going to share with your bestfriendhubby or wifey if you don't have anything going on personally outside the home. everyone gets caught up with pre-conceived notions and a stoneaged, waspy definition of a legalized committment. a good fun long term relationship comes from being secure in yourself and not relying on the other person to define who you are. my husband is a hip hop artist. we met when i became his band's publicist. we also met after our previous relationships went ary. i believe it worked because we weren't looking for anything, anyone or had any expectations of something happening. it just happend. we just chilled and still today we chill. yes we disagree but where would the fun be if we didn't. we have a deep mutual understanding of a lot of things. and no we aren't in public slobbing each other down all the time. we were never like that. our love is something beyond the physical. people fear what they don't know. you have to be able to free, honest and chill. there is work involved. don't get it twisted. you learn as you go. that's the challenge. and their-in lies even more fun. so to my single friends, don't fear. stop putting a clock on your heart. do you. let the love in. don't knock it til you try it. youmight just like it.
i do.

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