Saturday, March 17, 2007
Great Expectations
I know that you can't shield your children from anything but when you lay the groundwork, i kind of expect a little more. My kids are not allowed to watch scary movies. And really the only tv they get is pbs or an occasional thing on the Disney Channel. Nickelodeon is for adults or teenagers. I know many mom's my age who believe in the same things. And we consider us pretty free thinking people who are quite aware of what we'd like to our children exposed to. So PHina decides tell a story to Dahvi about Zombies eating people. So I say what do you know about Zombies and where have you seen them. Her face immediatly changed. I said calmly and very slowly " Did you see a scary movie somewhere? Tell me the truth." She hesistated. Then she said yes, I'm sorry. I said " Phina you know we don't allow you and Dahvi to watch scary movies. You should of just said I'm not allowed to watch scary movies. And I said I'm surprised given that you're even scared to walk past the scary movie section in blockbuster! Now don't get me wrong. Fear is good when it's natural. And though movies aren't real, my daughter's great fear of them and dogs is real. So I don't know. This is the second time this incident has occurred. No I can't control everything. I sincerely don't. But PHina knows we expect certain things from her. To be truthful. Mind her business. Don't talk to strangers. Be Polite. etc. Can a movie hurt her? Well I know it affects her deeply to the point that I can't even take her into blockbuster. She's afraid to sleep in her room sometimes. etc and on and on. Mind you this occurs as a result of the incident. Any other time, Phina sleeps in the pitchdark. So because I know I can't stop everything, I instill those things in her and hope she comes out on top. She's allowed to fall but as she gets older, I hope she continues to at least be truthful and make the right choices. Hopefully she'll realize how much power she has at such an early age.
I know that you can't shield your children from anything but when you lay the groundwork, i kind of expect a little more. My kids are not allowed to watch scary movies. And really the only tv they get is pbs or an occasional thing on the Disney Channel. Nickelodeon is for adults or teenagers. I know many mom's my age who believe in the same things. And we consider us pretty free thinking people who are quite aware of what we'd like to our children exposed to. So PHina decides tell a story to Dahvi about Zombies eating people. So I say what do you know about Zombies and where have you seen them. Her face immediatly changed. I said calmly and very slowly " Did you see a scary movie somewhere? Tell me the truth." She hesistated. Then she said yes, I'm sorry. I said " Phina you know we don't allow you and Dahvi to watch scary movies. You should of just said I'm not allowed to watch scary movies. And I said I'm surprised given that you're even scared to walk past the scary movie section in blockbuster! Now don't get me wrong. Fear is good when it's natural. And though movies aren't real, my daughter's great fear of them and dogs is real. So I don't know. This is the second time this incident has occurred. No I can't control everything. I sincerely don't. But PHina knows we expect certain things from her. To be truthful. Mind her business. Don't talk to strangers. Be Polite. etc. Can a movie hurt her? Well I know it affects her deeply to the point that I can't even take her into blockbuster. She's afraid to sleep in her room sometimes. etc and on and on. Mind you this occurs as a result of the incident. Any other time, Phina sleeps in the pitchdark. So because I know I can't stop everything, I instill those things in her and hope she comes out on top. She's allowed to fall but as she gets older, I hope she continues to at least be truthful and make the right choices. Hopefully she'll realize how much power she has at such an early age.
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